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Mother's Day/ Birth Mother's Day Poems for Birthmothers

We are a legion ~ Birth Mother's Day 1995 ~ Mother's Day 1997

We are a legion

We are
your friend
your lover
your spouse
your sister
your cousin
your aunt
your daughter
your mother

Present in
your work place
your neighborhood
your school
your PTA
your grocery store
your organization
your church
your family

Mostly silent
We have begun
Tentatively telling ....
those we care about
those we work with
those who ask
and, sometimes, those that don't

Slowly
We are rising......
in the church pew on Mother's Day
into the faces of the ignorant
in front of those who have denied us for so long

We are finding.....
Ourselves and
Each other

Strength in love

Brenda Romanchik, 2002

Birth Mother's Day 1995

She holds him
in her heart

And she remembers...

She remembers the magic
of the first flutter of life

She remembers the delight
of looking into his tiny face for the first time

And saying, "So there you are!"

She remembers the sadness
of letting go

And the incredible pain
of separation

She will always remember
what it was like to be his mother
to hold his tiny body close

Today we remember her
for all she has given
for her part
in bringing a miraculous life into the world

For the love she will always have
and hold
in her heart.

Brenda Romanchik, 1995

Mother's Day 1997

Being a birthmother
means that there is a baby
sketched in our heart
the lines that make
those perfect hands
and perfect limbs
and big wide eyes

are slightly smudged
blurred by tears
of motherhood not fully consummated

Being a birthmother
means that there is a baby
that is always with us

No matter
how old our children get
or how big they grow
or whether we have the privilege
of knowing them
or not

Being a birthmother
means that there is a baby
That we will always remember

Through the tears
through the years
through the changes
that must come with time
and circumstance

Being a birthmother
means that there is a baby
we will be thinking of

On Mother's Day

And honoring
And celebrating
And remembering........

Whether
or not we are
honored
or celebrated
or remembered.

Being a birthmother
means, to me, that there is a baby
who will be in my thoughts

On Mother's Day

with many other babies
and their birthmothers
and my son's Mom
and my other children
and my own Mother
and my Grandmothers
being honored
and celebrated
and remembered.

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