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Our Understanding of Open Adoption

IT is no accident that God has brought us together, for together we can accomplish what we could not do apart. Together we give this child the great necessities of life: the roots of security and the wings of opportunity. With hope in our hearts, we collectively offer a blend of security and nurture. It was love for children in general which put us on converging paths, and now it is our love for this unique child which unites us for the shared journey ahead.

WE stand committed to our ideals. We believe that children have innate dignity. We are convinced that children ought never be viewed as possessions to be hoarded, but rather are best understood as gifts from God to be selflessly loved. We believe children need security and stability, and we recognize that they innocently depend on the adults in their lives for these comforts. We believe relationships thrive in an atmosphere of honesty and mutual respect. We recognize that if any one of us is diminished, we all are.

THEREFORE we pledge to:

1. Center on the child and elevate his or her interest above our own.

2. Be honest in all our interactions.

3. Take the time to consider situations from the perspective of others.

4. Protect the honor and reputation of the others in this relationship.

5. Consult each other before introducing new people to the arrangement.

6. Stay flexible and open to new possibilities.

7. Convey newly discovered medical information.

8. Be direct in the expression of feelings.

9. Consider mediation in the event of major misunderstanding or disagreement.

10. Consider sharing our experience for the benefit of others.

WE make this pledge as an expression of love, integrity and good will. We ask God's blessing on our covenant.

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